Confessions of an aged care worker: “If you see bullying but don’t speak up, it just continues”

Bullying victim

While not all aged care workers face these challenges, for many these pressures are real, and they can have a corrosive effect on the culture of the aged care workplace.

These pressures mean aged care workers are often less likely to speak up if they are not treated well or see others being mistreated. They don’t want to rock the boat or make themselves a target.

When workers can’t speak up about poor behaviour in their workplace, a culture of bullying can thrive, and many have told HelloCare that this situation exists in aged care.

HelloCare’s Aged Care Worker Support Group is like a microcosm of the aged care workplace. It’s a digital forum where people who work in aged care can offer encouragement and support to each other, and ask those who work in the field questions about their work – including workplace bullying.

Further evidence of bullying in the aged care workplace comes from a 2019 survey by the Australian Nursing and Midwifery Federation, which found that ‘bullying and harassment’ is one of biggest concerns about the sector aged care workers. 

The survey identified that both hierarchical bullying and bullying from management occurs.

Culture of fear allows bullying to thrive

Sally*, a member of the Aged Care Worker Support Group, who wishes to remain anonymous, has spoken to HelloCare about the bullying she has witnessed working in aged care. She says the subtle undermining of others is typical of some of the interactions she sees at work, and she believes it has been “normalised” in the aged care workplace.

Sally said many people who work in aged care need as many hours of work as possible simply to make ends meet. Some of these workers are “desperate” and they live “in fear”, and they won’t speak out about bullying attitudes at work.

Speaking out means, “You automatically feel a fear response within yourself. It’s like, if I mention this, will I get less shifts? Will I not be put in this ward again? That’s always in the back of your mind.”

Sadly, this culture of silence allows bullying behaviours to thrive.

Gerard Hayes, NSW/ACT/QLD Secretary Health Services Union, agrees that many people who work in aged care are vulnerable and find it difficult to voice the concerns they have at work, and that can allow bullying to flourish. 

The person might be on a visa and concerned about being sent back to the country they came from. Or they might be worried about having their hours of work reduced, or about losing work at one of the two or three homes they have to work for, Hayes said.

“They might see bullying or be subjected to it, and that right they have to raise concerns is filtered by concern about their ability to put food on the table,” Hayes said.

Hayes said some people who work in aged care are “drowning” in the pressures they face, and that can play out in them acting in ways they normally wouldn’t.

‘Nurses eat their young’

Working in aged care requires an emotional toughness that many don’t realise when they choose to work in the sector. Sally told HelloCare that new starters are particularly targeted in the aged care workplace. 

The phrase ‘nurses eat their young’ has been around for decades, but Sally believes it’s still just as relevant in aged care today. The expression refers to the brutal way some experienced staff treat newer, less experienced co-workers.

Sally says it’s like an “initiation” when new staff begin to see if they can “hack it”. It comes down to whether or not they have the emotional strength, the physical strength and if they can tolerate the smells, according to Sally.

Good management will pull you aside and discuss issues, ensure good attitudes are modelled throughout, but Sally doesn’t see this occur very often.

Providers must support workers: Workforce Industry Council

Louise O’Neill is CEO of the Aged Care Workforce Industry Council (ACWIC), the body that has been tasked with implementing important reforms for the aged care workforce. She told HelloCare that “those who work in aged care do an incredible job, sometimes under significant pressures and difficult situations”. 

“They are managing a range of demands and complicated behaviours, all within the context of increasing financial constraints and regulatory requirements.” 

“However there is absolutely no excuse for bullying and disrespect in the workplace,” O’Neill said.

ACWIC’s Voluntary Industry Code of Practice aims to encourage providers to set the bar high in supporting the workforce.

“The delivery of quality care for older Australians is dependent on a strong, cohesive and highly skilled care workforce. There is no room for bullying and workplace disrespect in this environment.”

No excuse for bullying in a caring profession: LASA

Leading Aged Services Australia CEO, Sean Rooney, told HelloCare, “There is no excuse for bullying or other disrespectful behaviour in the workplace, particularly in a caring profession. 

“Providers, like all employers, need to be investing in ensuring their staff are safe and supported.” 

“We know that getting [the] workforce right is fundamental to getting [aged care] right. We have advocated for many years that our sector wants more staff, that are better trained and qualified, and appropriately remunerated.”

 “Aged care is a sector where people can make a real difference, but we need a system that enables and supports them.”

LASA has undertaken a survey on provider workforce issues. The results will be available soon.

HR a “luxury” many providers can’t afford

Increased funding and higher staff numbers would establish a stronger foundation in aged care that could alleviate some of the pressures aged care workers feel, Hayes said.

But with the aged care sector “under the pump” and many providers “struggling” simply to keep their doors open, Hayes suspects the building of stronger human resources systems would be seen as a “luxury” and low on a provider’s list of priorities.

Hayes hopes the federal budget shows genuine efforts to reform aged care. “The planets are aligned” he said in the wake of the royal commission, and with both sides of politics agreeing reform is needed.

Rooney said LASA will also be looking to the May budget to provide “policies, programs and funding” that helps aged care workers deliver the care older Australians need and deserve.

Finding strength in being an aged care worker

Aged care workers need to be resilient, Sally said. They need to be able to think about their work in a way that means they are not “at the mercy of the situation” and can rise above it.

These days Sally prefers to take on casual work in aged care. When I ask her wouldn’t she prefer secure, permanent work with entitlements, she says casual work in aged care is “less risky” and “more safe” because it gives her the ability to choose pay and shifts, and to work in homes where the management listens to her.

“You can test and reflect,” she said.

Sally wondered about the impact on homes and families when aged care staff witness bullying cultures at work. 

“After a certain amount of time in an environment like that, you end up exhibiting those behaviours,” she said.

“I’d like to see the aged care sector find a place where it’s valued,” said Sally, “so they can stand up and say, ‘I’m an aged care nurse’ and they’re strong in that power. At the moment, it’s like, ‘I’m an aged care nurse, but…”

*Name has been changed.

Have you witnessed bullying at work in aged care? Share your experiences in the comments below.

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  1. I attach an ageing thesis from 2012 that on reading long ago I recognised as a blueprint of emerging problems with casualisation of workforce in caring industries.

    Also attached from Niemoller re bullying

    First they came for the Communists
    And I did not speak out
    Because I was not a Communist

    Then they came for the Socialists
    And I did not speak out
    Because I was not a Socialist

    Then they came for the trade unionists
    And I did not speak out
    Because I was not a trade unionist

    Then they came for the Jews
    And I did not speak out
    Because I was not a Jew

    Then they came for me
    And there was no one left
    To speak out for me

  2. Yes I was subjected to bullying at work. I was bullied by two staff members continual who lied to management about my work practices ( I am an EEN) simply because they do not want to perform there job. One staff member would go around to other staff and tell them that the needed to report and complain about me otherwise they would have to work too hard. I had no support by management. The other staff member would scream and shout abuse at me. I had to report them for verbally abusing other staff nothing happened. I attempted several times to get this resolved at my workplace to no resolution. Staff knew I would not accept sub standard care as not cleaning teeth, not toileting or feeding residents. In the end as management did nothing I left. I am currently not working I was so shaken up by the whole experience.

    1. I suppose you didn’t get any support from your union? not surprised!
      You should always keep to your training and morals, but unfortunately your story is not uncommon. As they say, Don’t Rock the Boat.

    2. Hugs Lily, Cudos for not taking it and reporting. I’m sorry you are not working anymore. Keep on keeping on, consider dipping your self into COVID vaccination, its a great team, comradeship and support in an eclectic environment where everyone wants to truly make a difference. Slowly slip back into nursing, its the best.

  3. Unfortunately staff sometimes find themselves losing hours if they raise any concerns to management regarding, Bullying/Intimidation/Mismanagement.
    Priority is to keep their jobs, not to upset/question those above them or they’ll pay a price.
    Is this the reason why so many Organisations like to employ migrant workers on work visas, who are sometimes not aware of their rights ? They won,t rock the boat and do what their asked, no questions asked, for fear of losing hours worked, if you toe the line and don,t raise any issues, you usually get more hours.
    Staff/Work ratios, better education and an increase in pay rates may go some way to solve these problems.

  4. I was the victim of bullying at an Aged Care Facility l worked in. I went to the union and the union refused to assist saying they would not use members money to pay for a solicitor on a case they could not win. They could not win because l was casual and my hours could be cut at any time and for any reason.

  5. I spoke up, she swore to God that she had not meant anything and to this day continues to work there and most residents are terrified of her. I was senior, however I was brushed off as she was efficient at her job and personal friends with the manager. I even reported her further and the manager covered for her. It is consistently swept under the carpet.
    What else can anyone do??

  6. For me I reported bullying and nil was done, I believe the manager was the matriarch of bullying. I’ve left and will continue to speak up. The same manager is relentless at not supporting staff when they do speak up, so we go and hope the Residents will b ok. I reported a staff person hitting a resident, guess what. They claim it was investigated and no my claims were unsubstantiated. What can you do

  7. I was a victim of bullying from the manager. I did a good deed and got reprimanded for it also they went so far as to send emails out to staff right after the altercation we had that was directed at me. Then trying to put words in my mouth about me taking staff I had no say or control about. Pulling me into an impromptu meeting and calling me out and nitpicking my work. I’ve had colleagues in another incident talk about their safety, feeling unsafe from another co worker and management shrugged it off and mishandled the situation disregarding the worker saying “I’m fearing for my safety”. So many things wrong. Continuing poor management where staff are all stressed, sick and tired with inadequate resources

  8. Going through bullying atm. Still waiting on HR and union to get back to me. Reporting trough the correct channels seems to get nowhere.


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