Nov 27, 2024

She Cared for Her Ailing Grandfather Alone – Now Her Family Wants the House Granpda Left Her

She Cared for Her Ailing Grandfather Alone - Now Her Family Wants the House Granpda Left Her

In a heartfelt post on Reddit’s infamous Am I the Asshole (AITA) thread, a 29-year-old woman sought clarity on a deeply personal and contentious issue: Should she relinquish the home she inherited from her late grandfather to her family, despite their lack of involvement in his care?

Her post has sparked a heated debate about family obligations, fairness, and respect for a loved one’s final wishes.

A Grandfather’s Bond and a Life of Care

The woman, raised in a strict Christian household, described how her upbringing’s rigid gender roles alienated her from her parents and brought her closer to her grandparents.

Her grandfather, in particular, disapproved of these roles and shared a special bond with her. “Because of this, I became very close with my grandparents instead of my own parents,” she explained.

After her grandmother’s death, her grandfather’s health rapidly declined, and he required at-home care. The woman stepped in, moving into her grandparents’ cherished home — a house steeped in sentimental value, with sprawling gardens and no neighbours in sight.

Her family, however, turned a blind eye to her grandfather’s needs. “My parents preached that it was punishment for all his sins, so they wouldn’t take care of him and were planning on putting him in a home,” she shared.

Instead, she dedicated herself to his care, filling the house with “the love and laughter” it once knew. During this time, her grandfather jokingly suggested he might leave the house to her, saying, “Maybe I should just give you Missy instead of your dad; he’s just gonna give it to your brother anyway.”

The Aftermath of the Will

When her grandfather passed, the woman was left to handle the painful responsibilities of notifying family and arranging the funeral. The reading of the will revealed an unexpected twist: the house, along with other assets, was left to her instead of her father.

This led to accusations of manipulation from her family, particularly her brother, who was furious about losing what he considered his rightful inheritance.

Her brother later returned, pleading with her to give him the house, citing the needs of his growing family.

“He argued that because it’s just me and my husband and we don’t want kids, I don’t need it,” she recounted. Despite feeling torn, she refused, pointing out that her grandfather would never have wanted her father or brother to have the house.

Who’s in the Right?

This story raises several moral and ethical questions. Should inheritance reflect need or effort?

On one hand, her brother’s circumstances — a small house, a wife, and a baby — suggest that he could benefit more from the home. On the other hand, he and the rest of the family neglected their father in his final years, leaving the care responsibilities entirely on her shoulders.

Many commenters on the thread sided with the granddaughter, arguing that the inheritance was a reward for her dedication and love. As one person pointed out, “You sacrificed your time, career flexibility, and emotional wellbeing to care for him when no one else would. That house is your earned inheritance.”

Others sympathised with the brother, suggesting that the granddaughter might consider selling the home to help him. However, this approach conflicts with her grandfather’s explicit wishes to keep the house out of her father’s and brother’s hands.

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  1. As I understand it, in NSW at least, a person who has provided in-home care for another for at least twelve months would be legally entitled to their house. You would have to check on that, though.

  2. Where there’s a Will there’s a family! An inheritance is a privilege not a right. Her grandfather left it to his granddaughter because that’s what he wanted. His wishes should be respected. Maybe her family should do some self reflection on why he didn’t leave it to them.

  3. This is a heartbreaking reality of what Carers endure.

    I have 5 siblings, one of which I am the legal guardian for and have cared for him for 29 years, my other 3 siblings had diminished my mother’s finances and allowed her to reside in her home unassisted, and in fact the house was deemed uninhabitable.

    I am now being told how mums finances and assets will be distributed when she passes regardless of what her will depicts and how my disables brother’s inheritance will be dealt with, even though they have never assisted him with anything.

    I have been mum’s fulltime carer for over 2 years now, my husband and I would have on average 3 good night’s sleep per week due to mums’ delusions and decline but no one from the family help, but I know that when she does pass, my siblings with be cutthroat for all they can get, even though they have lined their pockets already.

    I know the hardship and distress families cause and I know that when it come to money there will be a lawful fight and no one wins.

    I believe the Grand Daughter should fight and uphold her Grand Dads wishes.

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