The mother of an 8-month-old girl is asking the internet for advice on how to deal with her mother-in-law after she secretly had the little girl’s ears pierced without her mother’s permission.
In a post that appeared on an online Reddit forum, the frustrated 28-year-old anonymous mother asked readers to let her know if they felt that she was “overreacting” as she shared her story.
“I’ve been married for four years and am the mother of an 8-month-old daughter. I’m a first-time mother but I don’t think I’m overly paranoid or anything,” she wrote.
“Last Friday, [my mother-in-law] asked if she could pick up Annie early from day care so she could spend time with her. I said ‘sure’. This isn’t the first time she’s done that and it’s never been a problem.”
Upon arriving at her mother-in-law’s house to pick her daughter up, the mother was shocked when she noticed that her daughter’s earlobes had been pierced.
According to the Reddit post, the mother-in-law had mentioned getting the little girl’s ears pierced before but was told specifically not to put the little girl through any physical pain for a cosmetic procedure.
Despite the betrayal of the mum’s trust, the mother-in-law then proceeded to try and justify her decision to get her grandaughter’s ears pierced.
“I was further enraged when I found out my daughter’s ears had been pierced at some cheap jewelry store [at the shopping centre]. If I were going to pierce her ears, I’d have taken her somewhere with professional piercers.”
After informing her husband about what had happened, he called his mother to tell her how angry he was with her actions. He also told her that he would be removing her from the list of people who can pick up his daughter from her day care centre because he didn’t trust her.
In response, the grandmother told her son that his wife was trying to turn him against her.
Soon after the heated phone call from her son, the grandmother sent her grandaughter’s mother a note explaining her actions via Facebook.
“I know that you’re mad at me and I want you to know that was never my intention. I love Annie with all my heart and you know I would never do anything that would hurt her,” the grandmotherwrote.
“I feel like I’m being treated like a child abuser. It also hurts that you apparently think I’m not entitled to any say over my granddaughter. It takes a village to raise a child. Once again, I did not mean to upset you, and hope we can move past this.”
Some readers in the comment section felt that the grandmother’s attempts at reconciliation should be enough to move forward and allow her to see her granddaughter again.
However, the young mother revealed that although she did not want to start a rift within her own family, she no longer trust her mother-in-law with her daughter.
What do you say, HelloCare readers? What advice would you give this mother for dealing with this situation?